Why do we turn to food when we feel betrayed?

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Turning to food is often the fastest and easiest solution to the need to self soothe when we feel a sense of  betrayal.

By Mindy Gorman-Plutzer

Recently I joined  Dr. Debi Silber on her podcast, “From Betrayal to Breakthrough.” This opportunity has stirred up some food for thought that I’d like to share.

There is so much emotionally driven conversation today about how we think about our bodies, how we experience and have experienced our bodies and the lessons learned from that. My personal and professional experience has taught me it’s often easier to leave our bodies than feel the anxiety and fear that is all too often buried within us. I have found this to be true for men and women.

What does this have to do with betrayal?

I think it’s safe to say that some of us living this FiftyPlus Lifehave experienced some sort of betrayal; maybe promises broken by a loved one, maybe disloyalty from a friend or co-worker or simply that our attachment to a story or our disappointed expectations left us feeling betrayed. Perhaps you’ve lived a healthy life only to be diagnosed with disease, leaving you feeling betrayed by your body.

These scenarios leave us feeling anxious and fearful — our stress response goes into overdrive. Turning to food is often the fastest and easiest solution to the need to self soothe. Turning to food, eating when we’re not hungry, not honoring satiety and fullness, is leaving our bodies. Ignoring our innate wisdom that what we’re truly hungering for is leaving our bodies.

Betrayal is defined as disloyalty. When our actions become misdirected and we rely on behaviors resulting in self-sabotage, we’re engaged in a sort of disloyalty to our bodies, ourselves. We betray our self-worth, the integrity to the life we’ve worked so hard to build, and ultimately it takes a toll on our health and well-being.

Our relationship with food is a mirror for our relationship to life — how we treat ourselves and what we believe. Leaving our bodies is metaphorically shutting the door that’s begging to be opened, if only we would listen.

We can correct this course. We can learn to honor our bodies and connect to the exquisite wisdom that wants us to be whole.

We can come home to our bodies and when we do, when we connect, truly, we realize there remains a welcome mat. The door to our soulful wholeness is always open. With this realization and loyalty to all we desire comes a life centered in love, joy and freedom.

In addition to being a board-certified health coach and nutritional consultant, Mindy Gorman-Plutzer is a Certified Eating Psychology Coach in Manhattan. She is the author of The Freedom Promise: 7 Steps To Stop Fearing What Food Will Do TO You and Start Embracing What It Can Do FOR You (Balboa Press). For more information, go to www.thefreedompromise.com. Follow her on twitter at @FreedomPromise.





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