Summer is coming: Don’t Let Bad Body Image Rule Your Life


Photo Mindy believes change can’t happen until we transform our thinking.

By Mindy Gorman-Plutzer

My name is Mindy and I am a former professional dieter, over-acheiving perfectionist and someone who always preferred to play it safe.

Today, I pride myself on being a professional food freedom fighter, perfectly imperfect and someone who looks forward to leaving safe behind.

When I started my work, it was in an effort to embrace my recovery from 20-plus years as a disordered eater. Attempts at every fad diet around, spurred on by fluctuating weight and a strange obsession with the size of my thighs, led to behaviors that included alternately restricting calories, compulsive eating (usually triggered by anything that had to do with feelings), and consistent purging.

Can You Relate?

What I’ve discovered is that what’s missing when we persistently try to lose weight and fail at it, is a deep connection to ourselves. We try so hard to change our bodies that we lose sight of the fact that true and lasting change can’t happen until we transform our thinking. I want to point out to you that there is a difference between change and transformation. Change requires a doing and un-doing. Goodness knows we all have too much on our to-do lists already. Change implies doing something outside of ourselves, as well. Transformation is about setting an intention and committing to the vision of it. It is more of an internal shift. Transformation is about being the change.

While May brings the promise of spring, the warmer temperatures remind us it’s time to shed the layers that have kept us warm these past months. This time of year provokes anxiety in many as once again we desire to lose those extra pounds that may have accumulated those very same months.

Are You Ready for the Transformation?

My “Seven Steps to Stop Fearing What Food Will Do To You” are achievable and applicable no matter where you may find yourself. They are reliable and most importantly, will lead you back to your goals and intentions as they take you back to what I like to call the safe and sacred space of solitude that is deep within you.

? Feel the Love. Start each day with gratitude for all that is right in your life

? Relax. Find ways to manage your stress so that you can respond in kind, rather than react.

? Eat when you are hungry, stop when you’ve had enough. Honor your hunger; don’t resist or deny it. Yet, when you find yourself eating to feed another need, recognize the power of the pause. What are you really hungry for?

? Eat Mindfully. When we pay attention, engage our senses, we can honor satiety and fullness. When you eat, eat and do so with your whole self.

? Do something everyday that makes you feel alive. Move in an effort to honor your body rather than to punish it because of something you ate.

? Make sure you surround yourself with what truly nourishes you. You’ll discover that what you are hungry for is not to be found in the kitchen. It’s the relationships we cultivate, our hobbies and career choices, our spirituality and physicality that feed our basic needs.

Start now, one step at a time if need be, and discover how you, too, can free yourself from the fear and confusion that comes up for you as you once again, climb onto the weight loss rollercoaster. By doing so, you will re-frame the years of story-telling about failed diets and wishful thinking. This is, indeed, The FiftyPlus Life.

In addition to being a board-certified health coach and nutritional consultant, Mindy Gorman-Plutzer is a Certified Eating Psychology Coach in Manhattan. She is the author of The Freedom Promise: 7 Steps To Stop Fearing What Food Will Do TO You and Start Embracing What It Can Do FOR You (Balboa Press). For more information, go to Follow her on twitter at @FreedomPromise.




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