4 things to remember about moving on, embracing change

Photo: Mindy embraces members of her family


By Mindy Gorman-Plutzer

How resistant are you to making changes in your life, whether it be related to diet and health, career and family issues? Sometimes you are forced to make those changes — the doctor reports your health is in jeopardy, your job is downsized or you’ve made the decision to finally retire, you are facing an empty nest and it is bringing up questions about your identity. Maybe, like me, you had the need for change forced upon you as you found yourself without your spouse or life partner.

The realization that changes are in order brings a myriad of feelings — fear, resentment and sometimes flat out denial. All understandable and in many cases valid. Truth be told, you have a choice when finding yourself at this crossroad. You can stay stuck in a past that has no future or you can forge ahead and embrace the challenges as opportunities to grow.

Situations Change, Whether You Like it or Not

One thing you can count on is that all things eventually change. Accept this and appreciate that change happens for a reason, not always easy or obvious, but in the end, most change is worth the effort you put forth to embrace it.

Learning to accept this is imperative to our happiness and peace of mind. Only when we change, do we grow, and open ourselves to a world we never knew was possible.

There’s Plenty of Live Left to be Lived

Mindy-web-150x150It is never too late to live a day that makes you proud. Every day is a new opportunity to be present in your life and make it great. There is no age limit on changing the course of your life, and to stay stuck in a life that doesn’t suit your truth is tragic. It’s never too late to be who you are capable of being. You can change or be the same. You can make the best or worst of today.

Take a chance, do things that surprise you, feel things you never felt before, spend time with those who help you learn and grow. If this is difficult for you, find the courage to dig deep and change things.

Holding onto Old Pain is Self-Defeating and Abusive

This was the best lesson I’ve learned. Everything we’ve experienced to this point has given us the strength and wisdom we have today. Re-frame those beliefs about the experiences in an effort to honor them rather than be haunted by them.

Toxic thoughts create a toxic life. Making peace with the past allows you to find peace within yourself. Healing your thoughts will heal you to your core.

There Are Always New Opportunities Waiting for You

If you are a reader of this column, you are probably very much aware of the fact that nobody gets through life without challenges and disruptions — losing someone you love, something you need or something you thought was simply meant to be.

It is these trials that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities — new relationships and new situations.

There is something very powerful and freeing about surrendering to change and embracing it — it’s where personal growth and evolution reside. This is, indeed, the FiftyPlus Life.

In addition to being a board-certified health coach and nutritional consultant, Mindy Gorman-Plutzer is a Certified Eating Psychology Coach in Manhattan. She is the author of The Freedom Promise: 7 Steps To Stop Fearing What Food Will Do TO You and Start Embracing What It Can Do FOR You (Balboa Press). For more information, go to www.thefreedompromise.com. Follow her on twitter at @FreedomPromise.


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